When I read about narcissist mother’s I couldn’t determine if my mother was or not. It looks to me like not.
I feel what happened to her was she married a man, my father, who was without a doubt a narcissist/psychopath, having a son the same. Having grown up listening to my mothers tears over my father and brother, ad nauseum, I have a tenancy to believe she was a fragile person taken over by a house of evil. She curled up and closed her eyes the best she could.
Years later and she married Dr. Bob Houston she was happy for the first time. He was lovely with her. He adored her and treated her with the utmost respect and kindness. But, unfortunately, she was also surrounded by arrogant children who where given everything. She paid for their education. She got her husband out of the red when they married, yet the step-children didn’t want my mother to have her money when Dr.Bob died. They thought it belonged to them. It was taken to court and her money was taken away by them.
I believe Dr. James, her husbands eldest child, controlled her, their father and everyone around him. When I stepped back on the scene he didn’t like it that I didn’t immediately get to my knees for him. The case of HOUSTON vs. HOUSTON is proof of that to me.
My mother was not an enlightened person and to my knowledge made no attempt to go inward and to examine her life, until the very end of her life. Living with me and seeing that I was not the person she had imagined I was and was told I was, started to sink in.
When I went back into her life I was very clear with myself about not bringing up the past because I felt it was going to get no where but heart ache. I had settled with myself that I no longer needed her to understand me. But as she became more fragile and more dependent on me near the end she started to look and apparently the pieces started to come together. I think she realized the damage done to me by my own family that got passed on to the HOUSTON CLAN, her step children. I would have thought a Dr. a cop, a nurse etc. (THE HOUSTON CLAN) would have seen through her fragile and unenlightened perspective of my family and what happen in that family. I understood she was protecting herself and speaking about a misguided perception of what had happened in our family. Blaming me for my abuse they should have know better. I believe they did/do know better but used my mother’s fragile talk about stuff she had no idea about but chose to ignore it because it was in their best greedy interest and decided to eviscerate me.
