Yesterday was father’s day. I deliberately didn’t make mention of my father on a day celebrating fathers. But I have something very important to say now.
I have forgiven him. I wont pretend, I wont lie, but we made our peace and I will honor that. I wont make him look like a saint, I wont damn him to hell but he was my father and I loved him. He was a big part of my history so he will be mentioned but from a place of truth not hate. I held his hand in the ambulance while we took him to hospice where he died (at 91) a few days later. In the last years of his life he tried. He tried to understand and to change, but, some cuts are too deep and, in this case, I can forgive but not forget.