As a former intensely private person I can say coming out has been a mixture of things for me. Coming out of myself into public scrutiny has been surprisingly healing.
What do I have hide? Abuse, molestation, betrayal and the boogeyman.
Look where being private has got me. It left people to make things up for themselves. I have seen big imaginations! I am really just a boring person. My life has not been special, or interesting. I have tried my best to be a good person and to make the best of the cards dealt me.
I was shamed into silence. I am not silent anymore. Maybe that is one of the advantages of growing older; you just don’t care anymore.
And, I have learnt about some very interesting and supportive people on this site. Amazing.