You come into my life, uninvited, you make all kinds of accusations and lies with no interest in the TRUTH. In the over 34 years of our parents marriage we have not had any real conversation, beyond pleasantries, so how could you know the truth. You preferred to make it up, didn’t you?
We have here a Doctor, a cop, a nurse, a contractor and 4 other individuals. My mother’s 4 step-children and their spouses. You took from my mother for over 34 years. Not a word of gratitude ever came out of any of you for that. You, collectively have an extraordinary amount of money. Some of that is thanks to my mother paying off your education that enabled you to have more riches, it wasn’t enough you were raise in a very high life style. But that wasn’t enough for you, was it? You say you had to do what you did for your father, denying my mother her spousal rights. Why did he write a mirror will with his wife leaving everything to his surviving spouse. And only after they were both dead would any of the children get anything. But the story is, you didn’t want to wait my mother to die, you didn’t have enough money already, is that so? You thought so highly of your father (or so you say) but you painted him as being the kind of man that would take what he did from his wife (she got him out of the red when they married and she paid for 3/4 of the expenses during the over 34 years of their marriage) You said when he died he wanted to leave everything he had to his spoiled rich adult children not to his wife. Which technically was hers because she was named the recipient of his will when he died. You didn’t present one shred of evidence proving he had changed his mind, now did you? You said he did, NO HE DIDN’T you are lairs. He didn’t! He was of sound mind to do that if that is what he wanted to do. You see I had a better opinion of your father. It saddens me that you have destroyed his legacy and reputation. I know he would never have done that and everyone, except his children knew that, didn’t they? He was a much beloved doctor in Victoria by everyone. He was a man of honor unlike how you painted him. And unlike his children. He adored his wife, my mother.
Your father, and my mother’s beloved husband, died in 2009 and because of your greed she was not able to go to his funeral, she was devastated. You humiliated her. She heard how you bad mouthed her at the funeral saying she wasn’t of sound mind, People turned up to check on her, including doctors, and found her to be in complete sound mind. You eviscerate me as a means to an end (to get HER MONEY), she killed herself in 2013 because of her total and complete helplessness in what you were doing to me (after all she was 92 years old, very vulnerable). You leave me in a puddle. And when I asked you to meet with me earlier in the year because quite frankly I was fighting for my life. What do you do, well Inspector Russell responds and says NO, we don’t want anything more to do with you. You shit all over me, you humiliate and degrade me then try to leave me with absolutely nothing and succeeded. You did everything in your power to prevent my mother and I from having a good relationship (which didn’t work) after all the pain the two of us had gone through and then you don’t want to help save my life.
You have the money now don’t you. It cost a lot of money in legal fees but then you all individually and collectively have a great deal of money so what is that to you. It cost my mother over a half million dollars to fight for what was hers to begin with.We can check out what is a matter of public property by going to the courts, or online for that matter, and check out HOUSTON versus HOUSTON Victoria BC Canada.Don’t take my word for it.
In fact no one has to take my word for anything. The courts. Oh that’s right you all made sure I couldn’t go into the courts and testify. You left a very old and fragile lady to be put on the stand for 2 full days in her own defense and expect to know what to say about her step-children and their lies and what they did to her daughter and why you would want to take away her spousal rights to her money.
As you live your higher than mighty life styles do you ever think about what happened to my mother? Did you ever think about how it was for her to take 14 days to die after she stopped eating and drinking? And incidentally her doctor said it is unusual for an elderly person to do this with know underlying disease. But I know why she begged to die. Because you forced this fragile woman to take responsibility for something that was not your right to instigate and force.Did you think about how these last days were and how I washed her, and took loving care of her. How I kissed her and talked to her about how she was loved. Dr. James (eldest and lead instigator) as a doctor that specializes in elderly people you would know how this looks. She could no longer talk but the tears still ran down her cheeks. But you were sitting in Oak Bay Victoria in your comfy house without a thought for this woman who gave you so much. Her doctor and lawyer can testify to the emotional pain this woman was in and how close we had become. Do you ever think about how she and I felt during this terrible time in the last 5 years of my mother sad sad life?
I don’t believe any of you do. But then your are not nice people,
Since I do not trust the legal system and I know that my family and extended family would like to take everything I have for themselves should something happen to me I want to say in front of the entire world I leave absolutely everything I have, belongings and money, to Mrs. J. Lazaro, Burnaby BC.
I have a Will however I also know how much money the HOUSTON CLAN have and how they like to take things for themselves. Therefore, I tell you all they, the HOUSTON CLAN, and my brother Tony Fowler are not to get anything at all.
I know that many people feel I should just get over this. I think many people feel it’s just a matter of letting it go and moving on.
Complex PTSD is not that simple to just get over and move on. Because I had come to some peace and acceptance over this issue of abuse I had moved on the best I could, before re-entering my mother’s life. Someone eases perception (THE HOUSTON CLAN’S) of my past was brought up by my mother’s step-children decades later about something they new nothing about. They presented their made up stories in court in order to get my mother’s money away from her. They succeeded in getting her money, drove her to kill herself and completely and totally eviscerated me in a court of law where I was not able to defend myself.
I write this blog to defend myself. I have come from a line of ‘HOODS’, my mother’s maiden name. There are websites on the internet about this line and my mothers name is on it. Mine will be one day and I want the record put straight. The HOUSTON’S CLAN’S version of something they new nothing about (because we had never ever had a conversation about it) is not acceptable to me.
This HOUSTON CLAN, my mother’s adult step-children, have said every vile thing about my mother and I you can possibly imagine in order to steal her money. It would not surprise me one bit if they accused me of being responsibility for her killing herself, that is the kind of people they are. They take no responsibility for their actions at all. They are arrogant and have a false sense of their importance.
This is what my mother’s doctor said after my mother killed herself: She and her office sent me a card of condolence and some flowers – Dear Louise, It was a privilege to get to know your mother and provide care for her at the end of her life. You were so brave and devoted – I will never forget it. Our thoughts are with you, Sincerely, Dr. Harvey.
Writing is hard for me, always has been difficult. I learnt when I was about 40 years old I am dyslexic. I grew up just thinking I was stupid.
I see how well so many people express themselves and I feel frustrated that I can’t write well also. If we were talking I would communicate well. In fact verbal communication is something I can do well.
I can’t tell you how many times I have felt worried, embarrassed and shamed at my inability to express myself the way I would like to in writing. I have turned down jobs and worked hard at not putting myself in a difficult situation where I was expected to read something.
It is now my firm belief that trauma is what caused the learning disability. How stressed and upset I am really shows in my writing. The worse my state of trauma the worse my writing becomes.
After my mother killed herself I think I just froze. It has taken me a lifetime to unravel what has happened to me.
I was abused and molested and left to care for myself at age 13. And by those same people who were supposed to love and protect me turned on me and bad mouthed me, humiliated me and drove me into further isolation.
In 2007 I made contact once again with my mother, expecting that she would reject me once again. This time she did not. However, we slowly and carefully reunited and re-built a good relationship. It was obvious to me that my mother’s step-children did not want this to take place and started to do things to undermine our growing re-connection. At no point did they attempt to support this reunion, except for my mother’s husband (their father) Dr. Bob. Although he was not in any way responsible for our reunion the HOUSTON CLAN swore in court that it was Dr. Bob had facilitated our reunion. That is a complete lie.
After decades of hard work on myself I reentered my mothers life and after a very long absence from seeing one another at all, because I felt I was strong enough and mature enough to make the decision to not allow any confrontation and upset to happen ever again. I knew that likely she would talk about what had happened to her vis-a-vis my father and brothers behavior toward her but was sure she would not want to hear me. I settled on never bringing anything up and never did. If we talked about the past it was on her instigation.
When her step-children launched a fight to get my mother’s money from her, and using me as their tool and scapegoat I was shocked. Most of the time I had no idea what they were talking about. They made up the most extraordinary stories. It devastated me. But my job, as far as I was concerned, was to take care of my mother. The case called HOUSTON versus HOUSTON was between my mother and her step-children and although I was used and abused to get the money I was unable to defend myself. I listened to what they had to say and read document after document of lies and was unable to do anything about it. So when my mother died I just imploded. I literally collapsed. All the pain of those few years just took me out.
All I have wanted over the last 3 years is die. I have thought about it every single day. I have no idea why or how this happened and it has only been since I launched this site and my google+ page that I have slowly started to learn. It is thanks to the internet and all my fellow blogger that I have learnt what narcissists/sociopaths can do to a life. What these people have done to my life. I often wonder what my life would have been like had I not been the victim of such terrible abuse by my family and extended family.
I am very tired now and although I feel I am, at long last, seeing all the pieces fit together I find no comfort. People say just leave the past behind. Oh, I so wish I could. I know nothing will change. It is what it is. Where do I put all this information. I am 50+ it feels too late for me to build a happy life, I don’t think it is possible.
I wish I could find a way of forgiving the HOUSTON CLAN for their ignorance, selfishness and greed but I just don’t know that I can. The repercussions to their greed did such extraordinary damage that can never be taken back. I know that “karma” will take care of them. They have grown children so when they are fragile and old (not too far away) perhaps they will need to worry about the lessons they have taught them.
When my mother decided to kill herself I was caring for her. We loved each other very deeply and had long long before reconciled and forgave each other. We had these last few years together and despite the horrible case of HOUSTON versus HOUSTON where my mother’s step-children took action against her to take her money from her we thrived in our relationship together. A huge portion of my mother’s money was taken from her by these greedy step-children and most of the rest went to the lawyers. I do want to remind everyone that during the over 34 years of our parents marriage my mother paid for 3/4 of the bills over the years. Along with having paid her husband debts at the time of their marriage.In the last couple of years of her life I had to contribute towards the payment of her bills.
Five hours before my mother died I collapsed and broke my foot. I was so tired and so stress and ignoring a bladder infection my body just gave out. I had to go to the hospital and while I was gone she died. The worst day of my life.
In the past 3 years since her death I have been left with a whole lot to digest and understand. It has taken me to the brink of killing myself too.